I was going to call this post emotions number four but lies are not really an emotion, although they do evoke an array of emotion.
First I should define between a damaging lie and a white lie. I believe a white lie is when your partner says they had one biscuit when they really had two. A damaging lie is self explaining, they cause damage. The worst kind of lie is when the lie its self prevents you from fulfilling a promise or stops you from supporting the victim of the lie.
If you lie to someone close to you, the kind of person you would not normally betray. The disappointment you will cause that person will do a number of things to you (the lie giver). Firstly the guilt will make you angry at yourself which you will pass on. Also you would begin to avoid the victim of your lie (the one lied to), this in its self could cause more damage.
Then there is the trust lost, all lies do make themselves known eventually.
Someone once said if you cut your arm you will heal. If you keep cutting the arm eventually it will fall off. A lie is like a cut you only get to do it a few times. Then it will end.
As for the victim lies only hurt. There will never be a good one.
If I sound like a preacher I apologise, I don’t lie.
DO NOT LIE. EVER. EVER. 🙂